This past weekend was a monumental one for The Exchange. And, for me personally. I want to express my deepest gratitude to everyone that came out to help us with our move. Many hands truly did make for light work. As I walked out the doors for the last time, I paused and took it all in. For the last two years, we called this place at The Collection our home. And much like our own homes, we were able to come and go as we pleased. We were able to host The Exchange whenever we wanted. We were able to offer it to others, that were in need of a space to meet. Lots of blood, sweat and tears were poured into that place. Lots of life change happened in that space. And for that, I am so grateful. It will forever be a part of our story.
We concluded our last month at The Collection, looking at Brene Brown’s Rising Strong. And what it looks like to live a brave life. A life that includes, stumbling and falling. Even failing. And how it is in the process of rising from that fall, that cultivates wholehearted living. It’s this process that teaches us the most about who we are.
I have learned a lot about who I am in the last two years. And I have learned a lot about other people. I have learned a lot about leadership. A lot about failures. A lot about success. And I realized I have learned more from our failures there, than our successes. And as Brene says, “If there is one thing failure has taught me, it is the value of regret. Regret is one of the most powerful emotional reminders that change and growth are necessary.
Like all emotions, regret can be used constructively or destructively, but the wholesale dismissal of regret is wrongheaded and dangerous. ‘No regrets’ doesn’t mean living with courage, it means living without reflection. To live without regret is to believe you have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with your life.”
She described a picture of a tough looking kid who had NO RAGRETS tattooed across his chest; it was the perfect metaphor for what she has learned to be true.
“If you have no regrets, or you intentionally set out to live without regrets, I think you’re missing the very value of regret.”
I have some regrets. But there is value there, for I have learned from them. It’s those very regrets that have given me the opportunity to be braver with my life. Honestly, I don’t like the unsettledness of not having a space for us to meet. It can seem like a big fall or setback. It’s time consuming. And it’s uncomfortable. But, the most uncomfortable learning is the most powerful.
And as uncomfortable as it is to leave The Collection with no place to go, I am grateful for our time there. I am acknowledging that this season needed to come to a close. I am choosing to be patient in the waiting. For those of you that remember the Three Acts of a Movie, I am willing to sit and rumble in Act Two. As Brene shares, “The middle is messy. But it is also where the magic happens.”
And so every day as I leave my house and as we are searching for a new home for The Exchange, I look at the reminder on my door, and smile.